Self-discovery: What if I go inside and there’s nothing there?

Self-discovery: What if I go inside and there’s nothing there?

by | Feb 14, 2016 | career, create your life, Dreams, empowerment | 0 comments

‘What if I go inside and there’s nothing there?’ a good friend asked me today. She’s on the edge of making a major change in her career and knows she needs to go within to get clear about what she truly wants to do. But she’s terrified that she won’t find anything inside. ‘What if I can’t work out what I want?’ she added. ‘What if I can’t do it?’

When she asked me these questions I had a flashback to myself a few years ago when I asked someone else the same questions about me. I too was on the edge of a whole lot of change in my life and truly beginning my journey of self-awareness. I too was terrified that, if I began looking inside myself, there would be nothing but an echoing void.

Fortunately, I discovered there was something inside and it was ‘me’. What’s followed is a journey of self-exploration that is liberating, exhausting and brings many insights about who I am and what I’m on this planet to do.

‘There is something inside,’ I told my friend. ‘It’s you. And she is a beautiful person who is just being a little suffocated because you won’t give her any air. So go within and get to know her because she’s fabulous.’ I also shared my story with her as well.

A lot of us can be too scared to look at ourselves closely. We’ll worry there’s nothing inside or that we’ll uncover parts of ourselves we don’t like. We’ll worry that if we bring those deepest parts of us into the light then we’ll have to take some action and do what we truly want to do…and that might change how things are.

I won’t lie, some of those things will probably happen. You will have to look at the shadowy parts of yourself and acknowledge they are part of who you are (then ‘get real’ on how to manage them). And yes, if you bring those things you truly desire into the light then you will probably need to make some changes. You will feel compelled to do so because you’ll realise you can’t stay where you are. These things will make you feel uncomfortable, unsettled and may upset people who want you to stay the way you’ve always been.

But the journey is really worth it because there are so many positives that come from the experience too. For example, you’ll start to understand what truly makes you happy and will make choices that align with those things. You’ll also connect more strongly with those lighter parts of you that bring so much joy into the world. You’ll be challenged but you’ll grow more than you ever thought possible.

And above all, you will discover (as I have) that there definitely is something inside…and it’s you.

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What is your passion?

by | Jan 20, 2014 | Books, Inspiration, Vision | 7 comments

passion-to-purpose-to-professionI read a sign recently that simply asked, “Are you living your passion?”

It was a good question.

On Saturday I found myself talking to my six-year-old niece, Cin, about her passion.

“I love Maths,” she told me.

She said when she grows up she wants to be a teacher.

“I want to teach Maths and everything!” she said.

Her face glowed with excitement, happiness and determination as she told me. The idea of being a teacher filled her with passion and joy.

Cin then asked what I love to do.

“I love to write,” I said.

“Why?” she asked.

That’s when my face started to glow with excitement, happiness and determination.

“I write because it helps me express how I feel about life,” I said.

“I write because sometimes people read my stories and it makes them feel better.

“I write because it can help other people make the world a better place.”

To an observer, it may have seemed an unusual conversation to have with a six-year-old. But Cin’s passion matched my own.

By asking what I loved, she reminded how I love my writing and crystalised my reasons for doing it.

My passion for words, their ability to tell meaningful stories across multiple platforms, and their undeniable and unstoppable ability to help others, goes to the very core of who I am.

It is my passion, just as teaching “Maths and everything” is Cin’s passion.

I’m going to encourage Cin to pursue teaching and any other passions she may discover as she gets older. Passionate people change the world and so will she.

In the meantime, I’m grateful for her timely reminder of my own purpose in this world, to write, and I will keep on doing it.

Do you know what your passion is?

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