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Someone once suggested that, when I’m feeling frustrated and lost, I tend to shout and rail at the moon.

I have to confess they were 100 percent right.

When I feel like I’ve given everything in a situation and it still doesn’t work out, I have been known to shout at the moon and ask, “Why?! What else do you want from me? What else do I have to do to make this work?”

Sometimes life is like that. We feel like we’ve tried our hardest and given it our best shot. But all we end up with is disappointment and discontent.

Of course, shouting at the moon doesn’t change anything. And it only makes you feel better for a short period of time. So I’ve been trying to train myself out of the habit and I think I’m getting better.

A good friend gave me some really great advice on how to take a more constructive approach. “Step back,” she said. “Step back and try to see the bigger picture. Maybe there’s something you’re missing or you need to take a completely different approach?”

It sounds so bloody obvious, doesn’t it?

I implemented her advice the other day and, surprise, surprise, it worked. Suddenly I realised there were other things I could do and other directions I could follow that would help me get where I wanted to go.

It was a revelation.

I haven’t fully resolved the situation yet, but I’m definitely on the right track now.

Gaining perspective when you’re in a situation you don’t like can be really difficult. But my friend was so right.

Sometimes you just need to step back and look at things differently. Don’t just look into the problem. Look around it, above it and below it. Turn it on it’s head if you have to.

After all, if your current approach isn’t working…you probably need to do something differently.