by Lucretia | Oct 26, 2017 | create your life, empowerment, Inspiration, Intuition |
There is a saying that we teach what we need to learn. This may seem confusing. Shouldn’t the teacher already know what they are teaching?
Yes. And no.
At the university where I teach public relations, I am constantly learning new things as I read up on new approaches and hear the fresh perspectives from my students. I’ve been working in the industry for 20 years but yes, there is still more for me to know and often my teaching itself reminds me of things I’ve somehow forgotten.
This occurs in my work as a transformational teacher where I help women connect to their intuition and manage their psychic gifts so they can live their Purpose. I am a psychic channel and, as such, I’m highly attuned to my intuition and energies. I’ve also accumulated a huge amount of knowledge about how to use my gifts and how they manifest for others. But nevertheless, there is still more for me to learn and often my clients, or the words I prepare for them, teach the teacher instead.
Tonight I did a video about indecision and the patterns of behaviour that no longer serve us. I talked about spending the first 30 years of my life being incredibly indecisive because I didn’t trust myself. I also mentioned that we frequently have negative patterns of behaviour that we repeat across all parts of our lives.
Imagine my surprise shortly afterwards when I realised I had a negative behaviour pattern repeating in my own life. I also discovered I was being indecisive about a particular issue because I wasn’t trusting myself.
Oh, the irony.
My pattern is something a lot of people can relate to: the need to be doing something all the time in the hope that it will hurry the Universe along. My mind has a timetable it would like to be adhered to but it’s not happening. There is universal timing at play but I’m resisting that by trying to push things forward when I actually need to pause, take a breath, and wait for a sign to proceed.
Can you relate to this?
We’re taught that we have to push, push, push and work, work, work to get what we desire. The thought of things flowing (and simply doing what we feel called to do when the timing is right) is almost a foreign concept to most people. But in my experience, when you feel like you’re forcing something through the eye of a needle and nothing is moving, then you need to stop and wait for the timing to be right or pivot your direction.
Wise words, huh? What a shame I’d forgotten them over the last few days when I was trying to force an outcome that either just isn’t ready or perhaps isn’t in my best interests.
When a good friend said, “Maybe you don’t have to ‘do’ anything” I shook my head in amazement at the simplicity and complete accuracy of her statement.
When you’ve tried everything and you don’t know what else to do, pause for a moment, regroup and know that it’s okay to do so. You will move ahead when the time is right.
Tonight I received a reminder that I had slipped into an old behaviour pattern that wasn’t serving me and it was exactly what I had shared on video early in the day. The teacher became the student and taught what she needed to learn.
And so it is.
PS. The picture is of the beautiful arena in Verona – something to take your mind off trying to force things. x
Lucretia Ackfield is a published author, psychic channel and a transformational who helps women reconnect to their passions, own their intuitive power and uncover their Divine Purpose so they can create change and serve humanity. If you’d like more information about her programs, you can find her on Facebook under Lucretia’s Words or join her private Facebook group Rock Your Inner Channel.
by Lucky Lucy | Dec 29, 2015 | compassion, Life, Sense of self |
One of my colleagues was feeling bored recently so he decided to Google the people around him. Once he finally worked out how to spell my name correctly (Lucretia is a little tricky), he typed it in and then turned to me with a look of surprise and perhaps, incomprehension, on his face.
Some of the images on his screen were, in many ways, very different to the face he saw a couple of desks away. His surprise made me laugh aloud and then, for a moment, I wanted to erase them all because I didn’t feel like they were very flattering.
Of course, I couldn’t do that without a lot of effort (nothing ever disappears on the Internet) and I realise now that I don’t want to. When I look at those images or the ones on Facebook or elsewhere, I can see the marks of where I’ve come from drawn all over my face and body.
The photos document when I was miserable inside (and carrying far too much weight as a result) and they show when I’m in recovery from a break-up. They also portray the moment when I was in a foreign land, independently forging ahead as life’s adventures called me on. Others show me when I am, quite simply, happy with my life.
None of those pictures show me as I am now. How could they? In any given moment we can transform from the person we were two minutes ago into the person we choose to become.
It is this capacity to transform rapidly that I can see when I look back over my photos from the past decade or so. I have transformed my life from what it was and moved it into the direction of what I wish it to be. I am no longer the same person.
But that woman in my past, the one who was just trying to do her best at any given moment, deserves my compassion. She doesn’t deserve to be erased because she was awkward, made mistakes or wore bad outfits. Instead she should be celebrated and embraced with all of her lumps, bumps and her sometimes less than ideal choices, because she is me. She is where I’ve come from and where I’ve learned who I am.
Every image that captured her progress shows transformation underway. A transformation into someone I love…me. Those images show that change is possible, that I have learned from my choices (positive and not so positive) and that my potential for growth is unlimited.
What a gift then to see my more rounded face with bad hair and a strained smile on the screen. Because that woman is me and she is a wonderful human being. Just like everyone else walking around on this beautiful planet.
by Lucky Lucy | Jan 15, 2015 | Sense of self |
Have you ever found yourself acting differently around certain people? You might try to appear ultra-professional in a new job or try to be the perfect partner when you start dating someone new.
Sometimes we’ll try to change ourselves to fit into a new environment or so we can be who we believe our new partner wants.
But unfortunately, this behaviour is unsustainable because you are essentially attempting to change yourself for someone else. Sooner or later the ‘real you’ will come out.
Sometimes it will be fine because the ‘real you’ still fits. But other times the ‘real you’ will simply cause a lot of discomfort and potentially pain to the people around you because you weren’t honest about who you were in the first place. Your new boss may feel you misrepresented your skills and your new partner may wonder if the person they fell in love with ever really existed. Inevitably you will then lose that job and find your shiny new relationship floundering on the rocks.
Sometimes we try to make these changes and become new versions of ourselves for good reasons. We want to improve who we are and be better people. But it’s when we do that for others that we become unstuck.
True change and transformation of self is a choice we must make for ourselves. It cannot be done to please another. It must be chosen and come from within to be real and have longevity. Part of you may wish to change but if you are not doing it for yourself, you will not be able to sustain the shift. You might keep it up for a few weeks, a few months, or perhaps longer, but sooner or later the charade will collapse and you will begin reverting to whoever you really are. You will revert to type and begin repeating all the healthy and unhealthy patterns you’ve always repeated.
I believe we are all capable of transformation. We can choose to go within, face our demons and do the work necessary to change who we are. We can choose to step up to the plate and do the work.
But it’s not easy. Trust me, I speak from experience when I say it can be an excruciatingly painful process. Realisations and life lessons frequently push you to your limits and force you to break through boundaries that no longer serve you. You must face things in yourself that are sometimes dark and very uncomfortable. You must be honest about what is important to you and get real about the things you need to deal with. And while others can help guide you through the process, you must essentially do the work and travel the path alone.
Some people may never take up the challenge. Others will start but decide it’s all too hard and simply go back to the way things were because it’s easier. And that’s true. It is easier to simply revert to type and carry on as before. Nothing will change and you’ll be a lot more comfortable.
But if you follow through and don’t give up, something quite magical will happen. From all that pain and hard work something quite beautiful will emerge – a strong sense of self and inner-knowledge. You will possess a clearer understanding of who you are and that the only limits are those you impose on yourself. You will judge yourself and others far less because you’ll understand that no-one is perfect and we are all just learning.
I’m not suggesting you will become Zen-like all day, every day. Most of us aren’t built for sainthood and will never become wise yogis perched on a mountaintop in the Himalayas. But the process will in many ways bring you peace because as you gain more understanding you will have more forgiveness in your heart for yourself and others.
You will also need to keep doing more work as you grow older because, as you become more aware, you will be led to deal with more of your stuff. So the journey will continue throughout your lifetime.
I’m not suggesting your ‘type’ is necessarily something that must be fixed. But if you start that walk on the path to self-awareness you will be rewarded with a stronger sense of self and amazing growth. You may even meet someone who becomes the catalyst that causes you to re-evaluate your life and believe it could different. But you cannot make the shift for that other person. You must always make it for yourself.
by Lucky Lucy | Dec 13, 2014 | Dreams, Emotional, Fear |
There comes a time for many people when the Universe stops us in our tracks and forces us to question everything we have built and believed to be true. The moment may be triggered by a divorce, a death, a chance meeting or even the casual words of a stranger. Whatever occurs, it will often have meaning only to you. But its impact will be massive.
What follows is usually a spin that leaves you feeling as if your life is out of control. You will question everything and frequently resist the honesty of what you feel. You will fight it because if you are open, you will have to change your life. And you will have to change the lives of those around you
You may have to say, ‘No, I don’t want this anymore. I want something different.’ You will feel like you are selfish and should be thinking of others and, as you transform (because the Universe will not let you rest until you do) others will judge and not understand you.
You will reach for things you never believed you could have but truly desired. You will set boundaries where they have been badly needed but never placed before.
Your world will crack open and you will need to rebuild it from the ground up.
This process is painful and must be done by you alone because you must invariably cast off everything that was, in order to create what will be.
You will need to walk away from that person you have been.
I have been through this process three times now in the past decade or so. And each time it has involved leaving things and/or people behind. I have not done it lightly but my soul has demanded that it occur. I have resisted the process every time.
The first time it happened, it was a chance meeting that began the process. What followed was more than two years of resistance, pain, transformation and ultimately the ending of my marriage. It was then followed by a roller coaster of experiences that helped me become someone very different.
The second time involved my psychic awakening and I have to tell you, that was no picnic either. It was painful and a sometimes frightening experience. And yes, I often resisted it too.
I should have realised by then that resistance was useless.
The third time was very recently when I was faced with a personal problem I desperately wanted to solve and yet could see no solution. The Universe stopped me in my tracks and demanded that I go within myself to find the answer. It would not let me simply coast along.
This time, after a few days, I stopped my brain (and my ego) long enough to connect into my intuition to find the way forward. I stopped resisting and instead faced that I must ‘get real’ and go within to find the truth. But I was terrified that if I did go inside myself and uncover my true desiers, I may have to let go of something I desperately wanted to have in my life. But I knew I must be brave enough to go there. I would have no peace until I did. I stepped back from the noise in the rest of my life and went within.
What followed was a change that, while it might seem small to others, was huge for me. I discovered a part of myself I never really believed was there. I was transformed and all these doors in my mind and life that I’d believed were sealed shut, blew open. I gained clarity that two weeks earlier, I didn’t believe was possible.
My transformation this time was much quicker than before because I gave up the resistance early. But I didn’t do it alone. This time I sought guidance and healing from people I could trust. They had my best interests at heart. They were the ones who didn’t have an agenda about what my life should look like. They just wanted to help me find my own way. And so I did.
So why am I sharing all this? Is there a point to this blog?
I’m sharing this story because there are people in my life right now, people I love dearly, who are going through exactly this process of transformation. Some of them have unexpectedly begun the journey while others have been struggling with it for years. They know they must change their life, they know their soul demands it, and yet their ego – that part of us that holds on to safety and wants things to stay exactly as they are – is resisting. My dear friends, just like I did, are fighting themselves to the death. It is painful for them and difficult for me to watch but I know they must complete the transformation into the person they are meant to be.
Each of them is terrified that if they look to closely at what is within their own hearts, they will need to change. They worry about hurting and disappointing others. They worry that they have to throw everything out and start again.
They may have to do all those things. Some of them will ultimately walk away from relationships, begin new careers or simply spring clean their life from the inside out. They will all have to change what is to become what must be. They may keep things or relationships or desires from before or discard them. Those things that are kept will be closely aligned to the more authentic version of who is being created. It may sound clichéd but they will emerge like a newborn, or a butterfly fresh from its chrysalis, to a new life that is full of more than they could ever have imagined was possible. And in this new life, they will allow themselves to reach for what they truly want.
But to reach that moment they will need to question everything – their beliefs and expectations, and the life they have so far chosen to live. They will need to crack open the box inside them, labeled ‘the truth about [name]’ and face what is inside. They will need to let things go.
They must go within. And the longer they resist, the harder it will get because they will not be allowed to resist for long. The Universe will simply push and push until they face the truth and take action.
Resistance will be useless.
