by Lucretia | Nov 8, 2018 | change the world, clairvoyance, create your life, empowerment, follow your dreams, Psychic, psychic connections, Relationships |
Can you remember a time when you gave up on something you loved or dreamed about? It might have been when you were a kid, or a teenager or as an adult. I want you to think about when you chose to stop going for that dream or doing that job or activity that you loved. Regardless of the circumstances, there was a moment when you chose to let it go.
Maybe some other kids made fun of you for being different, so you gave it up. Maybe a teacher said you weren’t good enough, so you gave it up. Maybe someone told you that it would be too hard or maybe impossible, so you gave it up. Maybe you had a family to provide for, so you gave it up.
Can you see that moment in your mind’s eye? Can you remember how it felt?
When I look back, I can see a few of those moments too. The one that stands out tonight as I write this post, is the moment I realised that if I was going to be with my husband then I would probably never work overseas. He was perfectly happy staying where he was and we were married and I loved him. At the time, my choice seemed obligatory and not a real choice at all. If I wanted my relationship then I had to give up the exciting dream that beckoned to me.
But it was me who chose. I could have gone for six months and then returned, but I didn’t (I wasn’t brave enough to take that risk on my own). I could have left him, but I didn’t (that came years later when our paths were definitely and permanently no longer running in parallel).
I chose not to chase that dream.
Over the past 13 years, since my marriage ended, I have done a lot of travel. I guess you could say I’ve been making up for lost time. I even worked remotely for clients while I was in Italy last year, so I guess you could say I finally realised my dream after all. Does that mean we all eventually get where we’re meant to go? I’m not sure.
I know I’ve come a long way from that 20-something young woman who was too scared to go for what she really wanted. I also know that the love I’m seeking these days won’t require me to give up what I love and dream of. Compromise in a relationship is one thing, but giving up on your dreams and the things you love permanently is a choice I’m no longer willing to make.
Life will always throw us curve balls. Sometimes we have to defer things and put them off for a while until it’s a better time. I know this. But the danger is when we choose to make those decisions to align with other people’s expectations, or when we think we should just be more sensible, more practical and [insert all the other reasons we tell ourselves why we can’t have what we truly desire and deserve].
I hope that when you read this post you will remember that thing you loved or dreamt of. I also hope you will choose to find a way to reach for it again because the real cost of giving up what you love is always too high.
Lucretia is an author, psychic channel and transformational teacher who helps women reach for what they love. Her three-month, personalised mentoring programs help women like you claim their Intuitive Power and Live Their Soul’s Mission. Contact Lucretia at lucretia@lucretiaswords.com for more information. You can also find more of her work on Facebook and Instagram
by Lucky Lucy | Jul 30, 2015 | follow your dreams, self belief, Writing |
A few years ago, thanks to a redundancy package, I was getting ready to leave my full-time government job and head off into the unexplored lands that lay beyond. It was my plan to spend the following year writing the first draft of my first book.
I’d been discussing this endeavour with my friend and colleague, Matt, and he was very supportive. He also wanted to write a book and was keen to support someone with a similar dream.
As my last day drew near, he would regularly stop by my desk and ask cheekily, ‘When you are going to send me the link to your blog?’
‘Before I go,’ I’d say. And he would nod, smile and move on.
At that stage, only a few close friends knew about my blog and I wrote under a pseudonym. But in a moment of weakness I’d succumbed to Matt’s questions and agreed to send him the details before I left. And he was not going to let me forget it.
My last day drew ever closer and Matt did not let up. He was determined and I was filled with dread. Matt is a journalist and as such, trained to write professionally. He knows his stuff. I on the other hand am a PR chick. I’ve written about lots of serious issues in my career for all types of publications but I’m not a trained journalist and my blog back then was about ‘frivolous’ issues like dating, men and having no clue about either of those things.
‘Who am I to think I can write?’ I thought to myself. ‘Matt is going to think it’s a complete load of rubbish! He’ll never take me seriously again.’
My last day arrived as did Matt, loitering near my desk once again. We exchanged goodbyes and he reminded me of my promise. ‘I won’t forget,’ I said. And he was gone.
Not long before I closed my computer down for the last time, I sent my blog link to him by email along with some words asking that he not judge it too harshly.
As the email departed from my screen, I felt mortified. I wanted to sink through the floor and hide forever. He was going to think I was completely lame. Oh, the embarrassment.
The next day (my first day of freedom), I got up, turned on my computer and logged into my emails. Matt had already sent me his thoughts on my writing.
I took a deep breath and began to read his words which were along the following lines.
‘Lucretia, I don’t know what all the fuss was about. There’s nothing wrong with your writing. You’re a writer, so write.’
He wrote a few other things that day and his words were incredibly supportive. I was so grateful. Those few sentences helped me to believe I could be taken seriously. His words helped me to take myself seriously. His words were a gift.
Later this year, I will be self-publishing my first book. It’s not highbrow and it’s not revolutionary. But it’s my story and the support of people like Matt over the past few years, has helped me believe that it’s worth putting out there.
Sometimes it’s kind words that can make the difference between following your dream or abandoning hope. So when someone says they believe you can do it, believe them.
And if you don’t have someone like a ‘Matt’ in your world right now, then you should know that I believe you can do it. Your dream is yours, so go for it.
I believe in you.
by Lucky Lucy | Apr 16, 2014 | Dreams, Inspiration, Personal power |
There have been many periods in my life when I have dashed this way and that, trying to get things done, making decisions, feeling pressured and ‘knowing’ that I just need to keep going.
After all, I need to keep moving forward right? And I’m doing important stuff and people are relying on me…right?
During those times, often when it felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown because I was driving myself so hard, no one ever said to me, ‘Lucy, do you know that you can just ‘be’? You don’t ‘have to’ do anything at all.’
Looking back, I wish somebody had told me that. Because they are powerful words that help drag everything in our hurly burly lives back into perspective.
I’m watching a few people drowning in that hurly burly at the moment. Wonderful people who are putting off having fun until later…but later never comes. People who are driven and great at what they do, but gradually burning themselves out. People who think they need to decide now what they must do with the rest of their lives when really their soul is whimpering, ‘Let me just sit a while. Let me just ‘be’.’
Most of us need to work and we all have things we need to achieve and do when we get out of bed in the morning. But our tendency to load ourselves up and do more than we can realistically sustain is very common. And if you’re a perfectionist (like me), you want to do it all perfectly and that creates its own pressures. Meanwhile, any balance in our lives disappears completely and we become the machine instead of the operator.
So I guess my point today is this…if you can’t remember the last time you did an activity that brings you joy (reading a book, playing with your kids, walking on the beach), then make plans to do it now. And I don’t mean plan to do it in a year’s time because you will be a wrung out, resentful rag by then.
If you have a dream that you’re putting off because you’re ‘too busy’ or you’re trying to keep everyone else happy, stop, breathe and ask yourself if you really need to do all those other things. Can you actually have a bit of what you truly want now?
And above all, if you feel like you’re drowning in the hurly burly always remember that you can just ‘be’ and you really don’t ‘have to’ do anything at all. The world will not end if you stop for a moment to catch your breath. It will still be there tomorrow.
by Lucky Lucy | Oct 31, 2013 | Dreams, Inspiration, Life, Vision |
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Last night I watched Kevin McLeod talk about his experiences filming Grand Designs over the past 15 years.
I’ve been a fan of Kevin’s for a while now. I love his blokey sense of humour and the way he explores the desires, triumphs and disasters of home-owners with compassion and a healthy dash of realism.
He’s also a talented wordsmith and during last night’s performance he coined a phrase I hadn’t heard before. He said true Grand Designers have ‘lunatic self-belief’ because they believe so wholeheartedly in their dreams that they will move heaven and earth (often with their bare hands) to make it a reality.
Lunatic self-belief.
I guess that’s a phrase that could be applied to many of the men and women who have made their marks on the pages of history.
Men and women like Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Amelia Earhart, Martin Luther King, Coco Chanel, Jane Austen and Marie Curie were all ordinary people who had the ‘lunatic self-belief’ that they could change their world.
These days we have modern-day ‘lunatics’ like Richard Branson who wants to change the world by running his entire airfleet using only fuel with a zero carbon footprint. Is he aiming high? Absolutely.
Is it possible?
Well, if anyone can make it happen, he can. Branson is willing to do the three things we must commit to in order to make our dreams a reality. He’s willing to invest in his vision, to look foolish and to try.
Some people think Branson is a little on the crazy side. But to many others he is an inspiration because he’s willing to follow his heart and make a difference.
We may not all be destined to change the world by standing up for freedom, inventing cures for cancer or writing a bestseller. But we can hold on to that ‘lunatic self-belief’ and maybe, by following our dreams, we can change the world just outside our front door and make it a better place.
If Branson can do it, why can’t we?
Anything is possible.
