HeartI’ve been wondering if any of you sat down to write the letter I mentioned in my last blog. You know…that letter to yourself about what you really want, see http://wp.me/pirqj-fj

And if you did write it, what came out? Were there things you didn’t expect? Did you feel uncomfortable? Did you cringe or feel disloyal, ungrateful and selfish? Was there the promise of a more fulfilled life than the one you’re living?

When I wrote my first letter, I felt all of these things and more. But I was also surprised at how clear the messages were. There was nothing wishy-washy about it. I’d spent months trying to work things out in my mind and reason with myself. But the letter swept all that to one side and told me the truth in my heart.

As I’ve mentioned previously, it took me months before I could accept the truth in that letter and take action. It took me a long time to accept what was in my heart.

Accepting the truth can be difficult because it often means change and challenging the nice comfortable life we’ve created for ourselves. We will have lots of structures we’ve put in place to support that life and we’ll be fearful of tearing it all down to start again. But sometimes (not always) the truth will demand that we do exactly that. Sometimes we must let go of things to move along our path.

We must accept things about ourselves we don’t want to accept.

My first letter confirmed what I’d been struggling with for months – I needed to leave my husband. And yet, I still didn’t leave for months and months because I didn’t accept that truth. I did not want to ‘go there’.

These days I’m much better at accepting myself. I use the letter-writing technique to get to the truth when I find myself spinning around in my head searching for an answer. I find it easier to accept the truth because I’ve accepted that I deserve to be happy and follow my own path. I’ve embraced the idea that I know what is best for me and sometimes that will not align with the thoughts or beliefs of others. I’ve come to trust my inner guidance system.

It’s taken me years to get to this point and I know I have such a long way to go. There are days and weeks when I still resist the truth and tie myself up in knots before moving through to acceptance. But I am treating myself more kindly, more often.

I’m also not scared of going within to the find the answers because I know the person in there is me. Just like the only person inside you, is you. And that person deserves a voice and the joy that comes from following their path. That person definitely deserves your acceptance.